Hi Elizabeth! Thank you for your comment.
If someone's oversensitivity dictates the tone of the relationship, then that's a one-sided, unhealthy relationship - and that's not what this article was about at all.
From my point of view, the type of sensitivity you're talking about doesn't seem to relate to empaths, but rather to narcissists and other kinds of toxic personalities. Gaslighting and walking on eggshells are very clear signs of that (btw I have a few articles specifically on those topics).
Being self-absorbed is completely different than being highly sensitive. A narcissist demands you to be sensitive towards them (meaning, walking on eggshells) but they can't reciprocate that sensitivity because they lack empathy (so they say and do whatever they want to and never take responsibility for it, even after hurting you a million times - in fact, they say you're the one who should be apologizing!).
That's exactly the opposite of being an empath, and dealing with someone like this can really deteriorate our mental health and self-esteem. I highly suggest Dr. Ramani's videos on YouTube, if you'd like to dive deeper into this topic.
I hope you're having an amazing day and I wish you all the best.