Your wounds will never heal if they’re not given the space to breathe and regenerate.
You cannot heal in the same environment that made you sick. I have no idea who the author of this quote is, but this is some of the best advice you’ll ever get.
How many of us spend months, or even years, trying to find peace in the midst of…
There’s more than fight, flight and freeze.
When we talk about trauma, we often mention the fight-flight-freeze response. We know it’s our body’s natural reaction to perceived threats, which allows us to act quickly so that we can protect ourselves.
However, there’s a fourth type of response: fawn. People who fawn use people-pleasing behavior to feel secure…
#2 Feeding your soul with content that either inspires you, validates your feelings, or expands your knowledge.
A dark night of the soul can be an incredibly humbling experience. It shakes every aspect of your existence and it forces you to question every relationship in your life.
I can’t put into words the amount of pain, sadness, grief, and despair I’ve felt over the past two years.
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#1 Remind yourself that you are not responsible for your family’s emotional well-being.
Enmeshment is a dysfunctional relational pattern in which personal boundaries are either blurred, unclear, or non-existent, leading to many unhealthy beliefs regarding ourselves and our relationships.
When we grow up in an enmeshed family, we’re not able to separate our emotions from the emotions of others: we’re overly empathetic, we…
We can’t accept something we don’t feel worthy of.
We spend most of our romantic lives stuck in the same patterns, replicating them over and over again.
The reason behind this is simple, yet extremely complex: we let our previous relationships dictate how love is supposed to feel like, and we attract people who reinforce these feelings.
In other…
#3 The success of your boundary is not measured by how well it is received.
Boundaries are a fundamental part of any healthy, long-lasting relationship. It doesn’t matter if it’s a friendship, a romantic connection or a family relationship, boundaries are always necessary.
They’re particularly important when we’re conditioned to be people-pleasers. If we’ve spent years letting others dictate our feelings, and being as boundary-less…
This is a collective problem and we need to address it.
When we have a narcissistic person in our life and we talk about their behavior with other people, we usually end up feeling even more confused and invalidated.
We’re told “that’s just how he is” or “she doesn’t mean it, she loves you” and, just like that, our feelings are…
Real, authentic love is not supposed to be earned.
Most of us are not aware of our core beliefs regarding love and relationships. We sleepwalk through life, letting our previous experiences dictate how we feel, think and behave.
If we’re lucky enough, our core beliefs are not that bad: we believe love is unconditional and we’re not chronically afraid…
Is your fear of abandonment sabotaging your relationships?
Fear of abandonment is something many of us carry, yet we have no idea how deeply it affects our lives and relationships.
More often than not, we’re not aware of our abandonment issues — we’re aware of its symptoms. We’re aware of our jealousy, our insecurities, our anxiety and our…
