Everything the child within us needs to hear.
Connecting with my inner child has been a huge part of my life for over a year now. Without it, I’d still have lots of memories to heal and lots of suppressed emotions that I had never allowed myself to feel.
Telling what your inner child needs to hear is incredibly powerful, especially if you were not given the love and acceptance you should have been given by your parents or primary caretakers.
As children, we can’t identify what’s wrong. We can’t tell if our parents are good or bad — we just love them the way they are, and all we want is to be loved back. However, if we can’t emotionally engage them, meaning, if we have emotionally immature parents, we’ll feel like something’s wrong. …
Understanding someone’s pain doesn’t mean giving them permission to act it out on you.
I believe being an empath is an incredible blessing. Our ability to understand others, and to feel their feelings as if they were ours truly is an amazing gift.
But such a gift brings many challenges, and one of them is understanding that we can love people and still set boundaries. This is particularly difficult because, more often than not, we don’t even know how to not feel their emotions. We simply absorb them; there’s no dividing line.
We feel their pain. We feel their sadness. We can see how they’re feeling even if they haven’t said a word yet.
As we see them, we think it’s our job to make them feel better. We forget our own personal needs and worries because suddenly, all we want is to find a way to fix them. …
Are you paying attention to your inner voices?
If we pay attention to our inner world, we realize that we have two voices within us: the voice of our ego and the voice of our consciousness, which we often call intuition.
The ego is that part of us that wants to keep us safe at all costs. It makes up stories and creates beliefs that lead us to always play safe and stay in our comfort zones. It lives in constant fear: fear of getting hurt, fear of rejection, fear of the past repeating itself.
On the other hand, our consciousness knows how to live in the present moment. It knows there’s a life force working for us, guiding and supporting us every step of the way. …
How to find some peace in the midst of chaos.
A dark night of the soul can be an incredibly humbling experience. You feel trapped, you have no idea why you’re here, where you’re going or for how long this wild ride is going to last.
I can’t put into words the amount of pain, confusion, sadness, grief and despair I’ve felt over the past year — though most people close to me have no idea of what’s going on, because I know they’d never understand.
However, what astonishes me is that I can, somehow, see that there’s a purpose behind it all. I know the Universe is guiding me and I know that it is giving me exactly what I need to grow and evolve. …
Sometimes we just have to surrender instead of fighting the circumstances we’re in.
When I first started diving into the self-improvement world, I felt really inspired and motivated. All of a sudden, I felt like I was in control of my life, and I could see how everything was filled with infinite possibilities.
I developed many habits that have helped me immensely. I started eating healthy, working out and doing yoga. I managed to save lots of money and travel to many of my dream destinations. My overall mood improved and my energy levels were higher than ever before.
This phase lasted for almost 2 years, until some emotional and personal issues started coming up to the surface, a few months before lock-down kicked in. …
#2 There’s mutual respect and admiration — even when you’re hurt or angry.
Love is subjective. We all feel it and think about it in different ways because we have all been through our own personal experiences.
There are, however, some common traits and patterns. The type of love we usually witness in our society is characterized by the fear of losing that person, as well as by attempts to fix and control them. It’s an I love you because you make me feel good, not an I love who you are as a person.
But if we’re lucky enough, we will, at some point, feel that pure, authentic love. That kind of love that makes us grow; that makes us face our fears, heal our wounds, and reconnect with our true selves. …
#2 Our loved ones can be the most resistant to our growth.
I’ve been going through my dark night of the soul for over a year now, and it’s been the most challenging, beautiful, painful phase of my life.
The dark night of the soul is defined as a spiritual journey that takes you along an emotional roller coaster, shaking everything you thought to be true and bringing you face to face with your deepest fears and wounds.
Before it all started, I was in a state of spiritual bliss for several months. I felt connected to nature and to the Universe like never before. I could feel pure love for every tree, every human, every being, every living organism. …
Maybe there’s a lesson behind all this madness.
We’re currently living in such uncertain times that many of us feel lost for not being able to control anything about our lives.
We live in a society that needs to have it all figured out, all the time. You need to know who you are, what you want, where you’re going. If you’re uncertain about something, then you’re perceived as weak, or lazy.
When faced with uncertainty, we tend to panic. And now, here we are: dealing with uncertainty regarding our jobs, our health, our freedom. …
And it was exactly what I needed.
I’m an introvert. I love spending time alone. I love dealing with my own thoughts and processing my own emotions. In fact, I need to.
When the pandemic first hit and we were told we’d have to stay at home, the thought of not being able to go out didn’t scare me at all. I saw it as a great opportunity to rest and recharge.
What I didn’t know was how many layers of emotions would come up to the surface, or how difficult it would be to face them all — day, after day, after day.
Self-isolation has forced me to slow down and just be. It has forced to feel everything I had been avoiding, and to acknowledge all the harsh truths I wasn’t aware of. It’s been a wild ride, but I know this was exactly what I needed to reconnect with my true self. …
Along with love, emotional maturity is the soul of any healthy relationship.
We all know love is the foundation of any relationship. What we don’t always realize is how important it is to be with someone who’s mature enough to reassure us, validate us and make us feel heard.
Emotionally mature people make the relationship enriching rather than draining. They love to give back, and they value fairness and reciprocity. They’re capable of looking at themselves and making changes that will create more closeness and intimacy.
This is particularly important if you’ve grown up with emotionally immature parents who never made you feel unconditionally loved and accepted. …
